So how do you get rid of someone you don't like?

Category: Dating and Relationships

Post 1 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Sunday, 03-Apr-2005 23:56:26

Hey all it is Jessica, and I had a little question for all of you. All right here is the deal, if you have a boyfriend who you know isn't your type, but you also know they love you and don't want to hurt their feelings what do you do? Let me know

Post 2 by sugarbaby (The voice of reason) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 7:04:42

Well Jes I think the key is honesty. If you don't love this guy, it will become apparent to him before too long, and that will hurt him more in the longer term, than if you tell him straight that you don't love him and you don't feel the relationship is working out. If being in the relationship isn't making you happy, it will not make him happy either.

Post 3 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 7:46:29

Hey sugarbaby, thanks much. You are much help. I just don't like to hurt him but maybe you are right. Thanks.

Post 4 by season (the invisible soul) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 9:00:04

hi jas. what sb its exactly right. its better to tell him your feeling rather then drag in this suituation for to long. thats not fair for you and him. take the step to talk to him and see what can be done. if can be friend, thats great if not thats fine. cheers: season

Post 5 by Goblin (I have proven to myself and the world that I need mental help) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 11:45:01

Jess how long have you been with this guy and if it's been a while why have you waited until now to sort this out...
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But to answer your question take him somewhere quiet, sit him down, and explain how you really feel, and be ready for a lot of pleading ect as he may not believe you for some time,because love is indeed blind.

Post 6 by chelslicious (like it or not, I'm gonna say what I mean. all the time.) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 21:29:26

honesty is key girl.

Post 7 by maddog (I'll have the last word, thank you!) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 23:13:33

Always be honest! I can tell you right now, that if I were the dude, I'd want to know! No matter how much it may hurt in the long run, you'll recover! You always do! So, it's better to know sooner then later so that you can recover and move on sooner rather than later.

Post 8 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Monday, 04-Apr-2005 23:18:09

thanks to everyone and their advice. And you are right Maddog, you made an excellent point.

Post 9 by Chris N (I just keep on posting!) on Tuesday, 05-Apr-2005 0:38:10

I agree with what's already been said. Obvious as it may seem, it's also helpful to figure out exactly why he isn't your type, so that you'll know for the future.

Post 10 by jessmonsilva (Taking over the boards, one topic at a time.) on Tuesday, 05-Apr-2005 6:11:21

Hey all thanks for the help. After tonight I found out for sure I dumped his sorry ass. Anyway, I won't get into that story but I just wanted to say thanks to everyone, the posts have been real helpful Thanks all!!

Post 11 by dissonance (Help me, I'm stuck to my chair!) on Friday, 29-Apr-2005 21:24:19

Hey Jessica, I was going to ask that same question, as that is happening to me.

Post 12 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Saturday, 30-Apr-2005 3:31:29

yep honesty, and the sooner you can be honest the better! .. good luck :)

Post 13 by Miss Gorgeous (I'm going for the prolific poster awards!) on Saturday, 30-Apr-2005 17:29:12

be honest with that guy, in the long run he will thank you for being honest and i hope yhis relationship can end up as being friends.

Post 14 by Jess227 on Saturday, 30-Apr-2005 20:46:58

Yes indeed be honest and tell him how you feel. It wouldn't be fair to lead him on like that. I mean look at me, I asked my exboyfriend how he felt about me and I can easily tell he doesn't feel anything for me by the tone of his voice, and his answers. I loved him but he did not love me. He led me on like this on and off for a year now. It wasn't fair to me that he did that, he could've just told me. But one day I'll find another guy, all in time.